How does it make you feel when you read that sentence? I am not talking about all the things in the outside world that you could be in conflict with. It is more about your inner world which also consists of your unloved thoughts and your unloved feelings. Which of the things you don’t love about yourself? Just assume that absolutely anything may exist in yourself, and, you have just learned to believe in Conditional Love. The possible truth is, you are not dependent of any belief system in your inner world, and, to achieve Unconditional Love you only need to forgive yourself and others. Absolutely anything, if you want. It is not that someone asks you to do it. You are free to do whatever you want. You only do it for yourself, and, it is not necessarily about becoming religious here. Just try to have this open, interested, loving look and turn within yourself. What would you see? Wouldn’t your “Paper Tigers” be grateful for it? Wouldn’t you see the love of a beloved child?
That’s strange! What should that be good for? …
Possibly, that helps you feel being connected.
In a Zen Buddhism class I got once a riddle. That riddle was the following …
Assume, you would hang with your hands on a tree at a cliff. Up on the hillside, there is a tiger, and, down below, there is a crocodile waiting for you. What would you do?
Feel free to solve it
Assume, you have lived 50.000 years ago, and, you would look in the eyes of a tiger who is willing to hunt you down to eat you. Probably, you would see this as a threat, wouldn’t you? …
But, what if these tigers would still exist today, which I’d like to call “Paper Tigers” here?! Possibly, they are not as dangerous as these once in our past, but, they still could eat you. These “Paper Tigers” could have many forms in our lives, either internally or externally. Externally speaking, these “Paper Tigers” could be, for example, your boy friend, your boss, your finance office or the amount of money you have, and internally speaking, these “Paper Tigers” could be, for example, the awareness of a sickness or the awareness of your death or inner stressful thinking.
Some of them you simply can’t run away from, even though, you wished you could, and possibly, this might cause a lot of stress in you. The problem with stress is that your vegetative nervous system is possibly in alarm mode and is constantly trying to find a solution for your threat and triggers your hide-fight-flight system of your sympathetic nervous system. The problem with this behaviour possibly is that, your body can’t relax during these stressful thinking phases.
That’s where our spiritual thinking, and the acceptance and forgiveness process in our mind, comes into play. Which means, try to consider that these “Paper Tigers” in your mind are friends, and, you want to learn to accept them. Try to consider that these “Paper Tigers” don’t want to eat you, or, try to see them as friendly messengers that would like to talk to you. Try to consider you could love them, and, because of that, your body relaxes more and more so that your rest and digest system, or the parasympathetic nervous system, is starting to come into action to fix possible issues in your body.
This idea is basically a summary of a metaphor which I have learned from a German psychologist called Robert Betz. Hope this helps you trying to relax, and, I hope this was the most condensed love that I could have ever been given to you